Next…Make A Plan To Manage Fertility Treatment
Now that you know a little bit about fertility treatments, it’s time to make a plan –with your TFC team…and as a couple.
Think about where you are now and what the future looks like. Start by acknowledging that you both want to be parents. Then ask yourselves what you are willing to do to make this happen.
You and your partner should discuss:
- Medical therapy and testing
- Family building objectives
- Your financial position, currently and in the future
Be truthful with each other. As individuals, you will have different comfort levels to each point above. Working out your differences now to form a plan will help you better handle treatment and decrease stress.
We recommend that, as a couple, you address these questions:
- What are we both willing to sacrifice to become parents?
- Are we willing to modify our life to focus on infertility treatments?
- Is our main goal to be biological parents, or is it to have a child join our family?
Pick Your TFC Doctor
Finding a doctor is a very important step toward achieving your goal. The Texas Fertility Center has five great doctors, all with similar experience, training and success rates for pregnancy.
Our doctors are board certified in both Obstetrics and Gynecology AND Reproductive Endocrinology and Infertility, training at prestigious American universities. The About Us tab features detailed credentials for each doctor.
Tip: With all things equal, your choice of physician comes down to practice style and personality. Infertility is a rocky road and feeling connected to your physician is vital to the success of your treatment.
Want to learn more about our Fertility Specialists? See profiles, videos and CVs of our physicians here.
How to determine the right TFC doctor for you
- Decide what type of doctor you are most comfortable with for your therapy. What personality traits are you looking for in your physician? One who gives you the data and lets you decide the course? Or one who chooses the best option for you? Do you want your physician to be male or female? Does it matter?
- Talk to your referring physician about the practice style of the doctors at TFC. Most referring doctors know the TFC doctors from professional associations and meetings and can share a little about their personalities.
- Review the TFC website. Each doctor’s educational background is available in the About Us tab. You can also watch educational videos from each doctor to ascertain individual communication styles.
- When you call for your first appointment, talk to the intake nurse about what you are looking for in a physician. Let them know what style of doctor you work best with and any scheduling constraints you may have.
- Schedule a consultation with your doctor to discuss your medical history and what you are looking for in a doctor. Bring a list of prepared questions.
- Bring your partner with you. Two opinions are better than one.
Start Therapy: You’re On Your Way!
We think fertility therapy is not strictly science. It’s ART. It’s rare to uncover the problem with one test and fix it with one treatment. Infertility can have multiple hidden causes that require creative solutions, trial, and error.
Uncertainty can increase a couple’s anxiety and feelings of helplessness. To alleviate stress, you and your spouse should sit down and discuss the steps to diagnosis and treatment.
Next, you’ll want to communicate your decisions about therapy and testing to your doctor. Be assertive in stating what you want and what you don’t.
You have the right to make your own decisions about treatment.
As your treatment plan changes, be open to new ideas and therapies. Discuss the pros and cons of each change with your doctor. After each appointment: Talk to your partner about whether you are willing to change or modify your treatment plan. Reach this conclusion together.
Having a plan for the testing and treatment that you are open to will help you better communicate with each other and your medical team.
Questions to consider:
- What tests do you want to have?
- What treatments will you explore?
- How many times will you repeat them before moving to the next step?
Financial problems are difficult for most couples to face, so fertility treatment probably will increase this stress. It’s important to be realistic about the expenses you may incur and to map out a plan for funding your treatment. Schedule a time to sit down as a couple to determine:
How much will your insurance cover?
Know ahead of time what your insurance company will and will not cover. Having this information will avert any confusion and frustration with the financial process. Our insurance benefit questionnaire will assist you in obtaining the necessary answers regarding your infertility coverage.
What exactly is included in your treatment cost?
Our billing department can provide you with the costs associated with any treatment cycle.
How much money will you spend?
- Communicate with your partner regarding the costs associated with an infertility treatment cycle and establish a plan of action for any future cycles.
- Have your financing in line prior to beginning treatment.
- What are your sources for covering out-of-pocket expenses (i.e. savings, home
equity loan, friends or family)
- Keep all your paperwork, (i.e. receipts, insurance explanation of benefits, and cost sheets) together and accessible. Binders are available at our office to help keep everything organized.
Our financial office staff is available to answer your questions and to offer counsel. We may be able to suggest organizations that offer grants and loans to couples in need. Our team can give you an estimate of costs you can expect during your course of treatment, including consultations, tests, medications, and procedures.
Also, keep in mind that while the state of Texas does require that certain insurance agencies that offer pregnancy services offer IVF, there is no law requiring insurers to provide the coverage — or for employers to include IVF in health plans. (source: http://www.asrm.org/insurance.aspx)
Facing the reality of the financial impact early on will help lessen anxiety throughout this process. We will do everything we can so that you avoid surprises on your statement. We encourage you to start the dialog early — between office-patient, insurer-insured and husband-wife.
Devise a Backup Plan
The majority of our couples do become pregnant, but there may be a time when you redefine what it looks like to be a parent. You may want to decide now what your limits are, and how long and how much you will commit to infertility treatment.
Other questions to consider:
- Would you consider donor sperm and/or eggs (gametes)?
- Are you going to focus on conception exclusively, or will you also pursue family- building through adoption?
Your answer may change as the journey continues, but always keep this mantra in mind: There will be a resolution to this problem, and it will result in a child. Whether that is a biological baby with your own egg and sperm (gametes), a baby created with the use of donor gametes, or an adopted infant or child remains to be seen.
It’s important to remember that you and your partner are in control. Your physician can advise you and offer statistical realities, but you have the power to determine the extent and duration of your treatment course. In other words, you decide when to say when.